Our friend Jim tells of the wise counsel given by a doctor when he and the wife of a patient who had been in an ICU for a month expressed a little impatience with how long the recovery was taking. The doctor looked them in the eye and very kindly but frankly noted, “Nothing good happens fast.” Our friend adds, “Bad things can happen very fast; the good stuff usually takes time.”
Most of us have had terrible, pivotal days in our lives, with illness, death, disappointment, loss… I’m sure you’ve also felt alone and impatient for “bad things” to cease.
A stroke turned our lives upside down “very fast.” It happened almost twenty-three years ago. Weeks of therapy, months of work, years of missing our past at times made us impatient. We hoped for complete recovery, but it didn’t come. “Nothing good happened fast.” However, as we look back, we can see that good did come – in time. Don has improved so much – more quickly at the beginning – but improvement has continued over the years.
What helps us cope and gives us hope?
When we compare how Don used to be to how he is now, we see that much “good stuff” has happened in his recovery. We also are encouraged as we look back over all the years since Don’s stroke and realize we have seen our kids grow up, seen them marry wonderful young women, met and loved our grandkids, had great times with friends, and celebrated more anniversaries than might have been predicted. We are grateful for all the good that has happened to us.
Questions for our readers:
Do you struggle with impatience in your recovery from stroke or other bad things in life? Have you in time been able to see “good stuff” happen?
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